Love Revolution

“I don’t want my world to revolve around someone else. I’d rather watch our two worlds collide…” – Friend

There are times when I wonder whether or not people live too much for someone else rather than themselves. Most people find that viewpoint to be laden with egoism, but it’s really not if you think about it. You should never live your life where you allow your world to revolve around others. If a relationship, or a friendship for that matter, is to succeed, it takes two to tango, regardless of who or what you are.

I am so incredibly exhausted of hearing people tell me that their relationships are failing and how much they’ve sacrificed for the other person. Sacrifice is relative, to be frank. You’ve sacrificed nothing that you would rather not part without. If you have the will and the want to give something up, you will, regardless of the person. I know that many of you will disagree with me on this subject simply because people always hide behind the “love makes you do crazy things” thing. No, it doesn’t. YOU make yourself do crazy things. If your partner/significant other/whatever-the-preference-in-identifying-a-special-someone told you to shoot yourself, would you do it? I didn’t think so.

The notion that people hide behind in the feelings of love really irritates me. If you’re not able to forge your own path, you will never succeed and you will constantly live for someone else. Don’t give up who you are for someone. You never know when those people will just walk out and leave.

My favorite quote of all time is, “There are two types of people in this world – the seasonal kind and the lifetime kind; and you’ll know the difference between the two. The problem with people these days is that they’re mixing up seasonal people with lifetime people. They get married and have kids with a seasonal person and then wonder what the hell went wrong.”

The quote is absolutely correct. Don’t fool yourself by thinking that you’re tied down to someone because of what it is. They may be acting strange or totally out of place, but that’s only because they’re starting to redevelop a different side of themselves. If you really want your relationship to continue to grow and work, you’re going to need to allow both of your worlds to collide. This collision will not only be the best thing that has ever happened to you, but it will start to bear fruit worthwhile.

For those of you not currently in a relationship, take that quote to heart. Don’t give things up for someone just now coming into your life or someone in the future. Let your worlds collide and see where it takes you. Sometimes things won’t work out and other times they do. Just wait it out and see. You’ll never know until you try. Don’t be afraid to step out on a limb. Take a chance. Make an adventure. You can’t regret something you’ve never done, right?